Three magic words

People who endlessly complain about something that they don’t want in their life are usually getting some type of reward for having that very thing there.

It’s known as secondary gain syndrome.



You want to lose weight and run a marathon but you also eat ice cream every night.

It’s the reward that holds the unwanted condition in place.

Complain all you want but until you give up the reward you will be stuck with the unwanted problem.

This ends now” when sincerely spoken and backed by integrity and competence will put an end to the drama.


The choice is yours:

1. Continue to tolerate it.

2. Put an end to it.


Radical sincerity matters.

Dusan Djukich Dusan Djukich

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